"The only time you can do grief wrong is when you judge yourself for grieving."

Note: this episode about grief is heavy and it is long. If you are not in a space to address your grief, maybe save this one for later.

Shout out to Hillary Owen of Driftwood Healing for joining us in this personal conversation all about grief. This episode opens with a gorgeous poem by Ada Limon - from her book Bright Dead Things - Tossing Around the Ashes

Hillary, Phil, and Jenny have all had different dealings with grief over the years. We’ve all lost and all responded differently.

How can we learn from one another and from remaining open about our grief?
What might help us collectively and individually in the midst of deep grief?
Does our Enneagram number play into how we might handle our grief?

Join us as we delve into what makes us human, our capacity for deep love and deep grief. 

Grief Resources (Things we mentioned, or meant to anyways):

• Everything Happens for a Reason (and other lies I’ve loved) by: Kate Bowler 
• The Myth of Closure by: Pauline Boss
• How We Live is How We Die & When Things Fall Apart  by: Pema Chodron 
• Crying In H Mart by: Michelle Zauner 
• On Grief and Grieving by Elizabeth Kubler Ross and David Kessler
• Breathing Underwater by: Richard Rohr
•  It’s Ok to Not Be Ok
  
• Grieving and the Enneagram by: Suzanne Stabile 

Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Welcoming Guest
01:50 Ada Lamone Poem
04:09 Resistance to Talking About Grief
07:47 Unresolved Grief and Funeral Experiences
09:30 Different Coping Strategies for Grief
21:07 Grief as an Antidote to Trauma
26:41 Differentiating Trauma and Grief
32:08 Engaging with Feelings in Grief
36:36 The Importance of Relational Buffering
38:26 Individual Approaches to Healthful Grieving
40:23 The Need for Supportive Relationships in Grief
43:04 Different Approaches to Grief: Thinking, Feeling, and Doing
45:27 The Power of Human Connection in the Healing Process
47:13 Finding Your Own Path to Healing
50:40 The Role of Spiritual Direction and Therapy in Grief
52:28 Creating Space for Grief in Society and Faith Communities
56:07 Addressing Barriers to Grief Support
01:00:38 Embracing Grief as a Part of Human Experience
01:03:14 The Practice of Mindfulness in Grief
01:05:42 Weird and Unique Ways of Processing Grief
01:10:41 Closing Thoughts on Grief and the Importance of Connection