We had such a great response to our Breakup Toolbox request on Instagram we decided to share more knowledge from those who've been through the thick of it. We also chat about our younger years and how Alli may have committed a felony More book and podcast recommendations in this episode... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/jillian-on-love/id1640172049 https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Hearts-Guide-Rising-Attachment-ebook/dp/B09M9HVTSP https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139/ref=asc_df_1585429139/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312403172530&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=17305391477419762996&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9010904&hvtargid=pla-436644332348&psc=1&mcid=2386fc36740830c9a5a618589d4a5505&tag=&ref=&adgrpid=60300244057&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=312403172530&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=17305391477419762996&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9010904&hvtargid=pla-436644332348&gclid=CjwKCAiAvJarBhA1EiwAGgZl0D1J_2bGfesmQ7H2vJVfCVyNr-ucjUAb61QDD7Uq75F3DlFJUR2IVhoC_f0QAvD_BwE https://www.amazon.com/Shadow-Work-Journal-2nd-Integrate/dp/B0BW31X61X/ref=sr_1_1?hvadid=580689941485&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9010904&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=5794057083472685790&hvtargid=kwd-466615604864&hydadcr=8238_13500835&keywords=shadow+work+journal&qid=1701221054&sr=8-1 https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-One-Transform-Relationship-Patterns/dp/1797211676 https://www.amazon.com/Journey-Abandonment-Healing-Relationship-Beginning/dp/0425172287 https://www.amazon.com/Lighter-Connect-Present-Expand-Future/dp/0593233174/ref=sr_1_1?hvadid=598657474066&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9010904&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=13182264201560496817&hvtargid=kwd-1646940571654&hydadcr=8238_13544377&keywords=lighter+yung+pueblo&qid=1701221285&sr=8-1

Breakups are rough. Especially when you're not equipped to handle it. Alli and Melisa share tools that have helped them -- and we hear breakup advice from listeners. Some books/podcasts mentioned in this episode... https://theholisticpsychologist.com/ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/on-purpose-with-jay-shetty/id1450994021 https://www.forbes.com/sites/nicolefisher/2020/02/14/emotional--physical-pain-are-almost-the-sameto-your-brain/?sh=2a67cbf246c1 https://www.amazon.com/Abandonment-Recovery-Workbook-Guidance-Heartbreak/dp/160868427X https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-self-love-fix/id1449341581 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002

Alli and Melisa chat about the glorious celebration that was Melisa's birthday party -- and how being part of the LGBTQ community can be your path to figuring out your sexuality. We also talk about the importance of building confidence within yourself to attract great things (and people) in life!

Alli and Melisa reflect more on the Messy Middle -- and we have another listener story from Molly, who was put through the wringer in her coming out, but has a positive message from the other side.

The Messy Middle is a common theme for many late in life lesbians. That part where you've come out, but there's obstacles in the way -- finances, job, living situations, co-parenting, illness, a husband in denial. Gaberiella and Alexa share what their messy middle is/was like.

The holiday season is approaching -- and with that, a lot of anxiety for some of our LC listeners. Melisa and Alli share some encouragement for those facing the holidays alone -- or those who will have to see their former partners in the arms of another.

Dr. Caroline, OB/GYN talks the journey of perimenopause and menopause -- how the symptoms can impact your life -- and sometimes go unnoticed!

LESBIAN ICON -- The Rosie O'Donnell -- joins Melisa and Alli to chat about the joys of TikTok, the importance of sharing hard experiences and connection, and the lessons she's learning while raising a non-binary, neurodivergent child. She also confirms a storyline that was cut from the cult classic, "Now and Then."

Do you feel like you have to keep your straight friends and you LGBTQ+ friends separate? Are you worried about losing your straight friends by coming out? Alli and Melisa dive into this topic.... And stay tuned for the end where we share some BIG NEWS about our next episode!

Therapist Emily Cade joins the show to talk about dating with chronic illness or injury. https://www.cadetherapy.com/