23 SET 2026 · TITLE:
Guarding the Eyes — Aruch HaShulchan, Even HaEzer 21–23: The Concise Edition
DESCRIPTION:
The concise edition of Kedushas Yisroel: the Aruch HaShulchan's laws of guarding the eyes,
Even HaEzer 21 and 23, read straight through — the gedarim, kol isha, hirhur, and the laws of
hotza'at zera — followed by the sources behind them. The severe half: the Gemara in Niddah 13,
the Zohar, the Ya'arot Devash, and the measure of Gehinnom. And, with equal honesty, the other
half: the Rambam on teshuvah, Rav Moshe Feinstein on repeated falls, and a Rebbi's letter to a
bachur who thought he was the only one. Closes with a practical order of operations for after a
fall. This episode is Torah learning, not individualized halachic, medical, or psychological
advice; where help is needed, ask a rav and a qualified professional.
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 — Introduction
00:22 — "You shall be holy": kedusha and the gedarim (Even HaEzer 21:1)
02:50 — Guarding the eyes in the street: colored clothing, "behind a woman" (Even HaEzer 21:2)
03:50 — "No one is a guardian against the evil inclination" (Even HaEzer 21:3)
04:26 — Kol isha, suspicion, and makat mardut
05:35 — The woman's own obligation: Bereshit Rabbah 18
06:27 — Rabbeinu Yonah, Igeret HaTeshuvah §58, and the Otzar Midrashim
07:07 — Chapter 23: why desire was created (Even HaEzer 23:1)
08:48 — The refractory period and the magnifying glass
09:48 — "More severe than all transgressions" (Even HaEzer 23:2)
10:37 — Uninvited thoughts and the instruction to turn (Even HaEzer 23:3)
11:55 — From halacha to the sources: the severe and the merciful
13:05 — The Rambam: Issurei Bi'ah 21:18
14:02 — Laws of Repentance: the four elements (Hilchot Teshuvah 2 and 7)
15:50 — The Gemara: Niddah 13, Yoma 29a, Avodah Zarah 20b
17:05 — "More severe than all": Sefer Chasidim, Chelkat Mechokek, and Beit Shmuel
18:08 — The Zohar, the Ya'arot Devash, and Chibut HaKever
19:54 — Gehinnom and its measure: Rosh Hashanah 17a, Taanit 10a
21:09 — The pivot to mercy: the thirteen attributes
22:05 — Repentance from love: Yoma 86b
22:29 — The angel Laila and free will: Niddah 16b
23:15 — A Rebbi's letter to a teenager
25:59 — Saadia Gaon: a later fall does not erase teshuvah
26:37 — From Shaarei Teshuvah to the Tanya: sadness, joy, and foreign thoughts
28:02 — Rav Kook, Rav Hutner, and falling seven times
28:45 — Rav Moshe Feinstein: repeated falls (Igrot Moshe OC 4:116)
29:56 — R. Melamed: positive repair and involuntary events
30:37 — Kapara and tahara: Rav Soloveitchik
31:11 — A word on marriage (Rambam, Hilchot Ishut 15)
31:36 — Halacha and the screen: the filtering poskim
33:31 — GYE: constructive guilt vs. destructive guilt
34:15 — When professional help is Torah
34:57 — Scrupulosity and intrusive thoughts
35:24 — Healing within halacha: Rambam, Yesodei HaTorah 5:9
35:57 — The order of operations: what to do after a fall
38:19 — The thread that runs through everything
39:35 — Closing
SOURCES:
Primary text: Aruch HaShulchan, Even HaEzer 21:1–3 and 23:1–3 —
https://www.sefaria.org/Arukh_HaShulchan,_Even_HaEzer.21.1
Tanach: Vayikra 19:2 (https://www.sefaria.org/Leviticus.19.2) • Vayikra 16:30
(https://www.sefaria.org/Leviticus.16.30) • Bamidbar 15:39
(https://www.sefaria.org/Numbers.15.39) • Tehillim 33:9, 119:37
(https://www.sefaria.org/Psalms.119.37) • Mishlei 4:24; 5:3–5, 8, 19; 11:21; 24:16
(https://www.sefaria.org/Proverbs.5.3) • Yeshayahu 1:15; 45:18; 55:7
(https://www.sefaria.org/Isaiah.55.7) • Hoshea 14:2–3 (https://www.sefaria.org/Hosea.14.2)
• Daniel 4:24 (https://www.sefaria.org/Daniel.4.24) • Bereshit 38
(https://www.sefaria.org/Genesis.38)
Talmud: Berachot 61a (https://www.sefaria.org/Berachot.61a) • Berachot 33b
(https://www.sefaria.org/Berachot.33b) • Shabbat 152a (https://www.sefaria.org/Shabbat.152a)
• Niddah 13a–b (https://www.sefaria.org/Niddah.13a) • Niddah 16b
(https://www.sefaria.org/Niddah.16b) • Avodah Zarah 20b
(https://www.sefaria.org/Avodah_Zarah.20b) • Kiddushin 30b
(https://www.sefaria.org/Kiddushin.30b) • Kiddushin 49b (https://www.sefaria.org/Kiddushin.49b)
• Rosh Hashanah 17a–b (https://www.sefaria.org/Rosh_Hashanah.17a) • Taanit 10a
(https://www.sefaria.org/Taanit.10a) • Yoma 29a and 86b (https://www.sefaria.org/Yoma.86b)
• Sotah 36b (https://www.sefaria.org/Sota.36b) • Bava Metzia 58b
(https://www.sefaria.org/Bava_Metzia.58b)
Midrash and Zohar: Bereshit Rabbah 18:2 (https://www.sefaria.org/Genesis_Rabbah.18.2) •
Otzar Midrashim (Midrash Ketapuach) • Zohar, Noach 66b–67a
(https://www.sefaria.org/Zohar,_Noach.66b)
Rishonim: Rambam, Issurei Bi'ah 21:18–19
(https://www.sefaria.org/Mishneh_Torah,_Issurei_Biah.21.18) • Rambam, Hilchot Teshuvah 2:2;
2:5; 7:6 (https://www.sefaria.org/Mishneh_Torah,_Repentance.7.6) • Rambam, Hilchot Ishut 15
(https://www.sefaria.org/Mishneh_Torah,_Marriage.15.19) • Rambam, Hilchot Yesodei HaTorah
5:9 (https://www.sefaria.org/Mishneh_Torah,_Foundations_of_the_Torah.5.9) • Rambam,
Hilchot De'ot 6:8 (https://www.sefaria.org/Mishneh_Torah,_De'ot.6.8) • Rambam, Hilchot
Sanhedrin 16:3 and Shemonah Perakim ch. 3 • Saadia Gaon, Emunot VeDeot, on repentance •
Sefer Chasidim §176 (https://www.sefaria.org/Sefer_Chassidim.176) • Rabbeinu Yonah, Igeret
HaTeshuvah §58 and Shaarei Teshuvah
Acharonim: Chelkat Mechokek and Beit Shmuel on Even HaEzer 23:1 • Sha'ar HaGilgulim,
introduction 23 • Likutey Moharan II:87 (https://www.sefaria.org/Likutei_Moharan,_Part_II.87)
• Likutey Moharan I:282, Azamra (https://www.sefaria.org/Likutei_Moharan.282) • Ya'arot
Devash (R. Yonatan Eibeschutz) • Tanya, Likutei Amarim ch. 26–28
(https://www.sefaria.org/Tanya,_Likutei_Amarim.26) • Tanya, Igeret HaTeshuvah ch. 3
(https://www.sefaria.org/Tanya,_Igeret_HaTeshuvah.3) • Rav Kook, Orot HaTeshuvah • Rav
Hutner, Pachad Yitzchak, letter 128 • Rav Moshe Feinstein, Igrot Moshe, Orach Chaim 4:116 •
Rav Soloveitchik, On Repentance • R. Eliezer Melamed, Peninei Halakha, Joy and Blessing of
the Home, ch. 4 • Shulchan Aruch, Yoreh De'ah 336:1
Contemporary halacha on filtering: R. Daniel Neustadt, halachic guidelines on internet use •
Halacha Yomit (R. Yaakov Sasson, in the tradition of Rav Ovadia Yosef), ruling on unfiltered
access
Historical notes: the magnifying glass and the brain-to-spine route in Even HaEzer 23 are the
Aruch HaShulchan's own 19th-century explanations, translated as written and not as medical
fact; the refractory period discussion notes that its length varies by person and is not
fully understood; the Zohar passage is quoted from an older English rendering whose substance
is the same across editions.
Support: Guard Your Eyes (https://guardyoureyes.com) • GYE 24/7 support line: 1-866-KEDUSHA
#KedushasYisroel #ShmirasEinayim #AruchHaShulchan #EvenHaEzer #Teshuvah #Bachurim #Kedusha
#YetzerHara #TorahPodcast #JewishPodcast Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/torah-with-simcha--4985090/support.
Torah with Simcha is produced by Kol Simcha Productions.
New episodes released regularly — exploring Torah, Jewish thought, and the wisdom that connects ancient text to everyday life.
Contact: kolsimchaproductions@outlook.com
Content is shared for educational, spiritual, and inspirational purposes. Sources are cited to the best of our ability. If you find an error or have a question about a source, please email kolsimchaproductions@outlook.com and we will look into it promptly.
Support the show — exclusive bonus content available to subscribers for just $2/month at spreaker.com/organization/kol-simcha
Not affiliated with any synagogue, rabbinical organization, or academic institution. All Torah discussion is offered in the spirit of learning — with meaning.