6 GIU 2024 · We all have disappointment! It's normal and it's unfortunately apart of life. For those of you who've been part of a high-control religion, you've probably been made to feel like you have to respond perfectly when disappointment comes. When we don't respond "perfectly" because we aren't perfect...we beat ourselves up. In today's video, I share with you how I'm currently processing disappointing news in my life and scriptural references to Jesus' empathy and compassion with our questions and disappointment in him. 💖Email me to work 1:1 shelbyb@bcmltd.us 💖More resources: https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages?provider_id=34053 #spiritualabuse #christianlifecoach #deconstruction #churchhurt #innerhealing

30 MAG 2024 · People pleasing is a coping mechanism we adopt when we feel in danger. It's a way to protect ourselves from vulnerability. To it's core, people pleasing is deceptive because it's dishonest. Women and men in toxic religious environments often find themselves adopting this coping mechanism thinking they are doing what God has called them to do which is "love well." Loving well does not mean loving at the expense of your mental, emotional, and physical health. In today's video, we break all of this down and how to heal from people pleasing! Email me to work 1:1 shelbyb@bcmltd.us More resources: https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages?provider_id=34053 #spiritualabuse #christianlifecoach #deconstruction #peoplepleasing

14 MAG 2024 · Welcome back! In today's podcast, I sat down with https://studio.youtube.com/channel/UCZjRm-wWkFw9y1ms8ia2t5Q again to talk about deconstruction/healing from purity culture and breaking off of shame! 💖If you're interested in the life coaching training program use CODE: SHELBYCO at checkout for 10% OFF: https://www.marriagewarriorinstitute.com/mwi/spiritual-lifecoaching 💖Email me to work 1:1 shelby@pilgrimageandco.com 💖More resources + JOIN THE SUPPORT GROUP HERE: https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages?provider_id=34053 Other videos with Suzette: 👉What Happens When the Church DOESN'T Unconditionally Love You: https://youtu.be/55o0Ce7F398 👉Recognizing Abuse of the Tithe and Emotional Manipulation in Financial Giving: https://youtu.be/LixRl9KfryU 👉A Story of Reconnecting With God Through Spiritual Abuse: https://youtu.be/_Sh-lyqi0Iw I am not a licensed psychologist or specialist healthcare professional. This video does not replace the care of psychologists or other healthcare professionals.

2 MAG 2024 · Welcome back to my channel! Today's video is a topic that has been all over my conversations lately. Why do we make excuses for not going after what's on our hearts? There are many reasons why we could be doing this and in today's video, we are going to work through how to step into the dreams and desires that God has put on your heart. We talk about: 💖 Putting ourselves out there into the world 💖 The call to adventure in "stuck" seasons 💖 Practical day-to-day steps 💖 Overcoming negative thoughts Email me to work 1:1 shelby@pilgrimageandco.com More resources + JOIN THE SUPPORT GROUP HERE: https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages?provider_id=34053 I am not a licensed psychologist or specialist healthcare professional. This video does not replace the care of psychologists or other healthcare professionals. #spiritualabuse #christianlifecoach #deconstruction 

25 APR 2024 · So much of how you see yourself now is based on beliefs you adopted about yourself in the past. If you believe you're a failure, you're going to look to confirm that in everything you do in life! What a miserable way for us to live. It's time to break off the shame... Break off the doubt... Or the unbelief in yourself or God... All of this will only hold you back from all the good things that are awaiting you. You're not a failure. It's okay. Just keep going. 💖Email me to work 1:1 shelby@pilgrimageandco.com 💖More resources: https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages?provider_id=34053 #spiritualabuse #christianlifecoach #deconstruction

16 APR 2024 · Hi there! Welcome back to The Bowen's podcast. Today my husband Branson and I sat down to talk with you about where we are at in our church journey. I'm sure it looks a lot different than yours but maybe you'll identify with a few of the things we talk about today.  There is no right or wrong to this!  church #deconstruction #exvangelical #faith #spiritualabuse

5 APR 2024 · I see people slap this verse in my comment section on videos like a "gotcha moment." They almost snicker to themselves as to how they can badger people into attending a church building on a Sunday morning. I want to make this clear. The church is wonderful! I love God and His people. If you attend a church on a Sunday morning that is great! This isn't meant to discourage that practice it is merely meant to respond to critics who say Sunday service is mandatory. My community is filled with people healing from spiritual abuse. It's normal and really healthy to take time off from the institution of the church while healing from church abuse. You aren't "sinning" for not going for a bit. It's normal and totally okay. Email me to work 1:1 shelbyb@bcmltd.us More resources: https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages?provider_id=34053 #spiritualabuse #christianlifecoach #deconstruction

1 MAR 2024 · It’s so important that we understand the meaning behind commonly misused verses like “Do not touch God’s anointed.” For a long time, I grappled with the confusion and doubt around this verse. Should I share my story? Would I be cursed for speaking out against “God’s anointed” people? It’s a dilemma many find themselves in today. It’s unclear whether leaders exploiting these verses genuinely believe in their twisted interpretation or knowingly employ manipulative tactics. I assume there is probably both. Regardless, open conversations like these are essential to unveil the verses that silence us or shackle us in fear. Email me to work 1:1 shelbyb@bcmltd.us Group coaching: https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/79095 More resources: https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages?provider_id=34053 #spiritualabuse #christianlifecoach #deconstruction

9 FEB 2024 · 👉💖OPEN ENROLLMENT for the spring semester of the women 's-only group coaching experience 'Spirit, Soul & Body Alignment' is now OPEN. There are a limited number of slots available. Apply now before they are full: https://forms.gle/oDvA5izmiN111fU4A It's normal to feel triggered when you open up your Bible and read the verses that were twisted in a tactic of mind control. Narcissistic church pastors and leaders are keenly aware of which scriptures to use to get you to follow their vision. In this video, I share tips to help you reconnect with the Bible and God following spiritual abuse/church hurt. 📚FREE 7 DAY DEVOTIONAL: https://mailchi.mp/bcmltd/7-day-devotional-on-reconnecting-with-god 🕊️ Book a coaching call consultation Email: shelbyb@bcmltd.us LINK: https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/bookings/new?package_id=63539 #christianlifecoach #spiritualjourney #christiancontent

4 FEB 2024 · Your peace is sacred and learning to protect that peace means not allowing other people's thoughts and opinions to rule your emotions. Understanding these concepts helps us to grow professionally, spiritually, emotionally, and relationally. 🕊️ Book a coaching call consultation Email: shelbyb@bcmltd.us LINK: https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/bookings/new?package_id=63539 #christianlifecoach #spiritualjourney #christiancontent