8 SET 2019 · This morning, 28 SEP 2017, SMSgt C woke up, held me in his arms & told me he loved me. He got out of bed to shower before going to take a test in Sacramento. I then got up, showered, got dressed and while he was sitting on the bed getting dressed, asked him to forward an email he had that would allow me to pick up our wine club wines that day in Napa. He became enraged and accused me of going to meet rich guys in Napa. He yelled at me "Take your ass to Napa..." and the remainder of this recording was him berating and degrading me. All for having asked for an email. This is all part of what an abuser does...one minute love and the next abuse.

25 AGO 2019 · Domestic Violence offenders often have significant insecurities with others in your life and feel less than. This leads them to control or over control things they see as a threat or things they cannot control. C would often accuse me of infidelity and degrade others, including women, minorities, co-workers and friends in special operations (ie: SEALs, SF) in vulgar and negative ways. Although C's behavior and personality issues were noted as far back as 2011 while stationed at Ft. Bragg, the Air Force ignored it and enabled him further.

25 AGO 2019 · C often threatened me with physical violence. He would corner me and pull his fist back as if to punch me in the face, he would place both hands up on the sides of my face and asked me which hand I wanted, he said "I want to break your neck and would have by now but God is with me." These are just some of the threats. As a victim, your life is a roller coaster and that is how the abuser likes it. The Air Force ignored this recording of him threatening me, which is punishable under UCMJ.

25 AGO 2019 · Another common abuser tactic is for the abuser to take the victims phone. In my case, C would take my phone to keep me from calling the police or friends/family. He would also take it to read texts, phone calls in & out (in addition to him looking over social media constantly). In this specific instance, he has verbally & emotionally abused me this day so badly that I went to the bedroom closet, laid there and cried for hours. I texted with friends and one offered a place for me to stay in Florida if I left C. For the rest of our time together, this friend, who I'll call Juan, was the subject of many future verbal assaults on me by C. It was common for C to say I was sleeping with my entire Special Forces Group unit, was meeting Coronado based Navy SEAL friends at the Westwind Inn on Travis AFB, CA to cheat on him, or was meeting "rich guys" in Napa behind his back. I was a "whore", a "slut", a "loser" (while female service members were all whores, "just want trains done on them" and Puerto Ricans were "disgusting".).