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A.J. Mahari is a Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach who has 35 years experience working with people surviving Borderline Personality Relationship Breakups in all relationship types, healing from codependency, Inner...
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A.J. Mahari is a Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach who has 35 years experience working with people surviving Borderline Personality Relationship Breakups in all relationship types, healing from codependency, Inner Child Healing, Family of Origin and Self Differentiation. A.J. also works with people surviving a Narcissistic Relationship Breakup or Co-Monbidly both BPD/NPD Breakup and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and much more.
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https://survivingaborderline.com
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Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups
Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups
Counsellor & Coach A.J. MahariEpisodi & Post
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5 SET 2026 · BPD Exws What is The Pathway To Healing and What Is Not?
BPD Exes what is the pathway to healing? It is not merely researching and "understanding" Borderline Personality Disorder. That canactually become a block to your healing and recovery process. In response to a commenter who is so lost, I talk about what isn't helpful when one has decided or knows they need to heal and recovery from a BPD toxic relationships and Codependency. I respond to a commenter who is really in a no-win place of unhealthy thinking "married" to being a "poor victim" of a person with VPD. Despite th e reality that people with (especially) untreate4d BPD hurt, abuse, use, and traumatize others, it's not helpful to stay in a "poor victim mentality" even though you have been victimized.
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16 AGO 2026 · Do Codependents over-function in BPD relationships or emotionally, in life, generally? The odd person/professional out there claims, yes, that's what's going on. No, it's not what is going on for anyone with Codependency. People with Codependency are not "over-functioning" they are under-functioning and dysfunctioning. People with Codependency have (from childhood woundedness, or adverse experience) an unhealthy and dysfunctional relationship to and with self. That is why people with Codependency are trying so hard to control the Borderline, to change him or her to rescue, to fix, to get back to who the fantasy bond of BPD initial idealization convinced you that he/she was. People with Codependency need their own therapy to heal what is largely in the unconscious and being repeated with a person with BPD. It's not all about the Borderline. Self=abandoning yourself, not being able to love yourself and lacking emotional and other boundaries cannot be "Over Functioning" and there is not such thing as a High-Functioning Codependent because that's not an accurate descriptor within the lens of what Codependency is at all. People with BPD (untreated -not clinically shown to have recovered) aren't who you thought they were. You can't change that. You can't wait around for them to do the 10+ years real BPD recovery requires.
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10 MAG 2026 · BPD Joint Therapy Fantasy BPD Right-Fighting & Pathological Lying vs Your Eggshell-Walking
BPD joint therapy doesn’t work and is a fantasy bonded nightmare of Borderline victim/martyr cs your Codependent walking on eggshells and trauma bond addiction to intermittent reinforcement.
Borderlines - unless clinically proven to actually be recovered need their own therapy and you need yours. BPD relationships without full BPD recovery are toxic and you’re not being “loved” while being abused.
BPD right-fighting and pathological lying block anything meaningful in joint therapy as they control
the process initiating BPD Induced Conversation and projecting on to the therapist as they do you in life.
Stop trying to recycle toxic relationships after the first breakup!
https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions with A.J.
https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts
https://ajmahari.com - Online Store
100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025
Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
the topThis podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
Million Podcasats:
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
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8 APR 2026 · BPD Negative Behavior - Don’t Confront It - What Can You Do?
BPD Negative Behavior - You can’t confront it. You may have unsuccessfully tried endless times. It increases your suffering each time, but to not say anything will increase your suffering as well. This is the heart of BPD toxic relationships wherein you just cannot win.
What can you actually do? What you can do is admit your are powerless over the person with BPD. So, then what in the middle of no win relationship impossibility?
https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions with A.J.
https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts
https://ajmahari.com - Online Store
This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025
Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
Podcast lists.
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
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5 APR 2026 · High Functioning BPD in Careers vs Relationships
How can a person diagnosed with BPD and with many active Borderline traits, behaviour etc in a relationship possibly function in careers, and often be or be becoming Social Workers and Psychologists?
The core reason is the vast difference in many with high functioning BPD having a high IQ in the absence of emotional relational intelligence. They remain, often, toxic in interpersonal relationships despite functioning (to various degrees) in careers or professions.
People with a degree in Social Work or Psychology are not going to be able to help themselves due to lack/loss of “self” and lacking emotional intelligence and lacking emotional maturity and so much more
This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025
Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
Podcast lists.
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
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28 FEB 2026 · Co-Pareting or Parallel Parenting With a BPD Ex - Another RollerCoaster
Co-Parenting or Parallel parenting with a BPD - Borderline Personality Disordered Ex is for so
many people, a nightmare. Not all BPD parents are the same, but, many, many of them are untreated,competitive, need their child or children's love and validation in such an unhealthy way that their need for a child or children's "loyalty" "never abandon me" drives so many Borderline Mothers and Borderline fathers to alienate you from you child or children.
Co-parenting efforts on the part of your BPD Ex may well be so full of high-conflict and many a parent with BPD cannot put their child's needs ahead of their own. If the BPD Ex still blames you for everything they deem that was "wrong" with the relationship they carry on believing that you shouldn't have any rightsto "their child". For many Co-parenting will end up more being Parallel parenting. Either way you need to have done your healing work to be able to stay calm, to be non-reactive to the BPD Ex and to only communicate facts about what your child needs.
Co-parenting, for many, not all, with a BPD Ex just become another somewhat different but very familiar rollercoaster experience that you need to learn how to strategize to cope with while giving your child emotional safety and love and as healthy of a life as you can during your custody or visitation. As conflict-laden as most of these situations
are it is really not going to be any better for you or your child or children to try to stay in a toxic BPD relationship hoping that will help your child or children. Sadly, they are going to be wounded in childhood.
https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts
https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube
This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025
Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
Podcast lists.
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
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3 FEB 2026 · BPD Sudden Discard of Monkey Branching Crushed Future
Many people who have been in short term or long term relationships with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder experience a BPD sudden discard of monkey branching that just crushes you and all the future plans that you believed were going to be your life unfolding in the relationship with the person with BPD that you didn't know, you didn't
truly know. The heartbreak, the loss, the shame, the toxic guilt of people with Codependency who for a time blame themselves. BPD sudden Monkey Branching discards add even more pain and confusion to what is experienced in any BPD Breakup. How can you recover from this?
https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts
https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube
This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025
Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
Podcast lists.
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
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18 GEN 2026 · The Glass Borderline 'H*mpty D*mpty' No Real Self
BPD Breakups and Codependent BPD Exes endless "what if's' in the confusion, losing of yourself, the rumination, the cognitive dissonance and the constant "how could he/she do this?" "What did I do wrong?" If only I would/could have had ___________ or done _________ or said ____________ or not done or said ____________ All these 'what if's' when you really need to understand the Glass Borderline 'H*mpty D*mpty and why your relationship will not, was not, did not and still cannot work out.
https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts
https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube
This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025
Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
Podcast lists.
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
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21 DIC 2025 · Reactive Abuse in BPD Partners and Exe
s is a trauma-informed podcast focused on understanding reactive abuse, emotional dysregulation, and the complex relationship dynamics that can occur with partners or ex-partners affected by borderline personality disorder (BPD) or similar patterns.
This podcast wpisode explores how reactive behaviors can develop in emotionally abusive or highly dysregulated relationships—especially when gaslighting, blame-shifting, boundary violations, and chronic emotional stress are present. Listeners will learn the difference between intentional abuse and trauma-based reactions, helping survivors release shame and gain clarity about what actually happened in their relationships.
Through education, real-world examples, and recovery-focused discussions, the show covers topics such as:
What reactive abuse is and how it differs from abuse
Emotional dysregulation and conflict cycles in relationships
Gaslighting, trauma bonding, and psychological manipulation
Why survivors may react in ways they don’t recognize
Healing after emotionally abusive or toxic relationships
Rebuilding identity, boundaries, and self-trust after trauma
Nervous system regulation and emotional recovery
This podcast does not demonize mental health conditions. Instead, it centers on behaviors, relationship patterns, accountability, and healing—offering compassionate insight for those who feel confused, blamed, or silenced after difficult relationships.
Whether you are recovering from a relationship with a BPD partner or ex, questioning your own reactions, or seeking to understand emotional abuse and trauma responses more clearly, Reactive Abuse in BPD Partners and Exes provides validation, education, and a path forward.
You are not “crazy.” You are not broken. And healing is possible.
https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts
https://youtube.com/ajmahari
https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube
This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025
Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
Podcast lists.
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
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6 DIC 2025 · Misunderstanding BPD Intensity as Love
So many partners and ex-partners of people with untreated Borderline Personality Disorder mistake the early intensity for love—because it feels overwhelming, consuming, and deeply validating. In this episode, I gently guide you through why Borderline emotional flooding gets misinterpreted as intimacy, connection, or destiny.
You’ll learn why intensity is not love, why emotional dysregulation masquerades as passion, and why the early idealization phase feels so powerful to codependents, and trauma survivors. This episode helps you understand the fantasy bond, the rapid trauma-attachment cycle, and the heartbreaking confusion that keeps so many people stuck long after the relationship ends.
This teaching is here to bring clarity, compassion, and truth—so you can reclaim yourself and begin to heal.
https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts
https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube
This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025
Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
Podcast lists.
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
A.J. Mahari is a Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach who has 35 years experience working with people surviving Borderline Personality Relationship Breakups in all relationship types, healing from codependency, Inner...
mostra di più
A.J. Mahari is a Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach who has 35 years experience working with people surviving Borderline Personality Relationship Breakups in all relationship types, healing from codependency, Inner Child Healing, Family of Origin and Self Differentiation. A.J. also works with people surviving a Narcissistic Relationship Breakup or Co-Monbidly both BPD/NPD Breakup and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and much more.
https://ajmahari.ca/sessions
https://ajmahari.ca/gottatalk - After Hours
https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts
https://survivngbpdbreakup.com
https://survivingaborderline.com
https://codependency.ca
mostra meno
https://ajmahari.ca/sessions
https://ajmahari.ca/gottatalk - After Hours
https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts
https://survivngbpdbreakup.com
https://survivingaborderline.com
https://codependency.ca
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| Autore | Counsellor & Coach A.J. Mahari |
| Organizzazione | Counsellor A.J. Mahari |
| Categorie | Salute mentale , Relazioni interpersonali , Automiglioramento |
| Sito | ajmahari.ca |
| ajmaharipodcasts@gmail.com |
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