Tobie Gonzalez joins Lisa to discuss why past trauma doesn’t define your future, the importance of taking care of the next generation, and how to not live in the shadow of your partner. SHOW NOTES Tobie’s story [2:00] Why we perceive the same things differently [3:37] Past trauma shapes who you are [[4:41] Ways to overcome your fears [6:45] You can control your brain [8:26] Effective parenting strategies [9:00] Impacting the lives of thousands of children [10:32] Having difficult conversations with your kids [13:10] Teaching your kids the right values [14:23] Falling in love with Tony Gonzalez [16:27] Finding your place in a relationship [18:00] Why it's important to speak your mind [19:44] Surprise people with your identity [21:22] Why being resilient makes you stronger [22:53] What is your definition of love?  [24:10] Freeing yourself from toxic relationships [25:03] Finding the right partner for yourself [28:14] Why it’s important to be independently codependent [30:00] Every relationship is uniquely beautiful [32: 42] Having an alter ego can be beneficial [33:30] Finding joy in every moment [36:51] DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins: https://amzn.to/2pfJChP Shadow Buddies: https://bit.ly/2MHNVvR Baby2Baby: https://bit.ly/1y6BQ9s   FOLLOW TOBIE GONZALEZ: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2NiDR1A