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The term narcissist gets thrown around a lot to the misfortune of people who are not actually narcissistic. Toxicity, emotional, mental, and verbal abuse are clear common markers of narcissistic behavior. Hopefully, you’re not in a relationship with a narcissistic person, but perhaps you’ve recently left a toxic situation and still feel lost, confused and uncertain how to handle the narcissist in your life.

Dr. Ramani doesn’t mince words when it comes to dealing with narcissists. The depth of knowledge she has from working with victims of narcissism is mind-blowing. In this episode we’ve packed some of the best advice Dr. Ramani has shared with Lisa on Women of Impact so you can take notes and the cycle of abuse and start healing.

If you’ve managed to avoid relationships with narcissists to this point, we’re cheering for you. We want you to be safe and be aware of the red fags many people miss until it’s too far gone.

SHOW NOTES:

0:00 | Introduction to Dr. Ramani
0:09 | Look for These Red Flags
26:02 | They Weaponize Vulnerabilities
47:48 | 6 Types of Narcissists
1:04:44 | Red Flags in Conversation
1:15:15 | How to Heal & Detox
1:37:06 | Break the Trauma Bond
1:52:15 | How to Leave a Narcissist

QUOTES:

“Once you’ve communicated something about three times, and it has been dishonored, devalued, not listened to, or validated, that’s it! You're done…” [3:29]

“Charisma is a tricky pattern, because we always assume, that it's a good thing and I think people have to be discerning about charisma.” [15:12]

“We're literally more protective of the password we have for some game on our computer, then we are with the most sacred parts of our psyche.” [27:02]

“There's a short list of reasons people stay in their relationships, hope, fear, guilt, and lack of information.” [40:48]

“Secure, people don't lash out at other people, [...] they know they're not always going to get it right. They're not always trying to overcompensate, they apologize when they are wrong.” [52:18]

“this is it. This is who this person is. You stay. And this is how it is” [1:04:40]

“It's not just about the trust of the other. It's about that you have the right to set a boundary. And that's about trusting yourself. “ [1:36:30]

“The primary motivations of these difficult relationships are that the narcissistic or difficult person wants power. They want control. They want everything for their own pleasure, their own needs.” [1:51:19]

“There’s no such thing as failing at healing. If you’re getting out of bed in the morning, even if you’re slow and even if it’s later than you want, you’re healing because you had the courage to face down another day.” [1:54:03]

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