Divorce is absolutely necessary and okay when you are dealing with one or more parties who no longer want to be married, or in a relationship, or their marriage has become intolerable pain-staking , insufferable, or a level of vicious cruelty to where staying married is revolting to one party or there is a level of repeat abuse , post seperation violence or repeat emotional abuse to where the parties cannot stay married and divorce is the only option. Some marriages are not meant and the parties involved are not or never were compatible therefore there is a level of making the kids involved understand mom and dad donot want to be together and the feeling is more than mutual without affecting the child or children