September 18, 2020
I’m not one to air my dirty laundry. Yet I find the methods of madness that we’re all wading through during this season of 2020 to be nearly next to being scrap metal. Not a Debbie Downer! Over the past six to seven months, during these days of safe distance and working from home we’ve forgotten how to properly communicate. To play nice. Not be a Know It All or a chaser of keeping up with the Jones’. No day passes that we aren’t bumping into enormous amounts of out of control, heavily unfocused and almost never researched points of view. I physically want to stop asking why. There are too many answers coming back at you! On this podcast episode I bring up the subject of family. Multiple broken families right now. We read about it and we live through it. We try to fix it only to watch it break down again and again. The Brady Bunch and Partridge Family were broken as well. But they were healed about 25 minutes into the show and it was never talked about again! Be honest with yourself. During these Covid days of individualism with a fake shade of being a team player, we’ve all become incredibly head strong. Friends take forever to call you back or maybe you’ll get a reply to your email. Nobody wants to deal with truth. Then again, with so many points of view what part of this conversation can you believe? My sister and I are a fractured fairytale. We love each other then we Ghost each other for months. We can’t be the only ones injured by two different sides to the story. Especially these day, we all want to be heard. The Governor of NC has opened the schools for the kids to return. Put that thought in the center of a group of people. The fight begins in three, two and one. Don’t even bring up the Presidential election, the out of control climate or Drew Barrymore’s new daytime talk show. The filters are off. We’ve given ourselves permission to Ghost each other. You’ll come back! It may take a couple of months or years but God keeps making more. I’ll be ok. Every one of us are students of life. And look at how we’re acting and reacting. Wanna meet me over by the tree? Make sure you show up! There’s more than a ripple in our flow through life. We’re into making huge waves. The physical idea of wanting and needing to talk openly is being met with yet another fight or indifference caused by this requirement to be heard. Our number one goal today and every day is to be confident and filled with courage. To lead ourselves first through a desert that’s somehow connected to a Promise Land. I totally get into being different, unique, a one of a kind snowflake. But for some sick reason it’s leading to violence. The divorce rate in the U.S. stood at 51% in February 2020 before Covid. It’s up 31% in September 2020. Top rated comedians with talk shows are being accused of being verbally abusive. Trust me. She isn’t the only one. No need to throw our place of business under the bus. It was accepted in the past. If we didn’t like it. We left. It’s going to get worse. Cuz being nice and getting along looks more like a weakness than a daily victory. So, my sister and I talked last night. Been a long time. Longer than the struggles on Modern Family and Blackish. I hear people from AA talking about being 15 years dry. Six weeks dry! It’s their personal victory and it rightfully should be celebrated. As should my relationship with my sister. One day strong! Mom and Dad we’re getting along. One day strong! The moral of this story? You aren’t alone during these chapters of invisible words and too many points of view. The goal shouldn’t be to shut people out. Verbal openness is an exercise. Family is all you have. Not one person on this planet needs to be alone. God isn’t making more brothers and sisters. You can’t just go out and find a friend that agrees to be bent into a person you accept. Before you drop everything on your plate and plant a new forest with your family and friends, the first step needs to be a relationship with yourself. Do you honestly know who you’ve become over the past seven months? Do you even like yourself? There’s always a sheet of paper somewhere nearby that would totally embrace your journey and answers without there being judgement. Invite yourself to that circle of love and remove the inner struggles.