Clare and Steve discuss the challenge of feedback and knowing how we are doing as a coach, when all our work is confidential and only witnessed by ourselves and our clients. They explore internal and external referencing and ask two of the biggest questions - who am I as a coach and why am I here? They suggest that understanding ‘self as instrument’ provides the framework against which we can measure our own success and that developing our reflexive skills and practice can all provide self feedback. We can then augment that through supervision, mentor coaching and well contracted co-coaching to give us that external feedback.