Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Dating Decoder with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice. In this enlightening episode Dr. Hensley delves into a controversial topic that many couples struggle with: the decline in sexual intimacy over time. She begins by exploring why attraction and sex come so easily during the dating phase of a relationship, but often wane as the relationship matures. Dr. Hensley highlights a significant gender difference in sexual experiences, focusing on the primary reason many women lose interest in sex with their husbands. She explains that unmet attachment needs lead women to feel emotionally unsafe, which in turn affects their desire for sexual intimacy. To fully understand this episode, listeners are introduced to key concepts of attachment. Dr. Hensley details how different attachment style dynamics, such as Fearful Avoidant/Dismissive Avoidant and Fearful Avoidant/Fearful Avoidant, impact sexual intimacy when it comes to their individual needs. She also discusses why both men and women seek sex for validation, albeit for different reasons. The episode covers several critical points: - The challenges women face in experiencing pleasure during sex. - The roles of feminine and masculine energy in sexual intimacy. - The characteristics of the wounded masculine energy versus true masculine energy, emphasizing the importance of a man being a trusted decision-maker, who deeply understands and sees his wife. Dr. Hensley provides a broad perspective on what a happy marriage with a healthy sex life looks like and concludes by offering specific insights into what each female attachment style needs for sexual intimacy and emotional safety. While acknowledging the controversial nature of this topic, Dr. Hensley aims to help couples achieve true sexual intimacy, leading to a beautiful and healthy sex life. Tune in for an episode filled with valuable insights and practical advice for rekindling the spark in your long-term relationship.  Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. Dr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://www.thedatingdecoder.com/group-coaching/ Book one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: https://www.thedatingdecoder.com/book-appointment/ Purchase Dr. Hensley’s online course: https://dating-decoder.mykajabi.com/offers/PpEPKnsM/checkout Tik-Tok: the_dating_decoder Instagram: @the_dating_decoder Facebook: The Dating Decoder Youtube: @Dr.SarahHensley What is covered: ·       The gender difference with sexual needs.   ·       One of the main reasons why wives won’t have sex with their husbands. ·       The different attachment style pairings when it comes to sexual intimacy needs. ·       How feminine and masculine energy play a role in sexual intimacy. ·       What the wounded masculine looks like versus the true masculine. ·       What each female attachment style needs to experience sexual pleasure and emotional safety.  Consider/Ask Yourself: ·       Am I contributing to my partners emotional safety to keep our spark alive? ·       Have I ever used sex as a band aid to avoid bigger problems in our relationship? ·       What does it mean for my wife to experience true sexual pleasure? Hint: it is more than just a physical need. ·       For husbands: am I being the emotional leader in my household? ·       For wives: am I allowing my husband to take on a leadership role or am I criticizing him too much? ·       What are my partners attachment needs and am I contributing to meeting them?