In this episode of Becoming with Angelina Watkins I tackle the topic of divorce.

50% of marriages fail and the percentage increases for 2nd and 3rd marriages. So why are so many people getting divorced? There are many reasons why a marriage doesn’t work. The biggest that comes top of mind for most people is communication, infidelity, abuse, and money problems. Lack of commitment is the highest reason why most get a divorce, with arguing and infidelity running for close second. But in reviewing all the reasons, it all boils down to irreconcilable differences.

Couples bring their past baggage, bad experiences, dysfunctional upbringing, and ideologies to the marriage and are unwilling to drop their pride long enough to reconcile. We are so focused on being right that we can’t create win-win solutions to make the marriage. Each person in the marriage has some hurts and pains buried that they need to reconcile within themselves before they can reconcile with someone else.

Healing has to happen within each individual to make the marriage work. You've got to unbecome and unlearn so you can become a better version of yourself and bring the best you to that relationship and into the marriage, not the unhealed you because the unhealed you is not the best you.

Episode Outline
[00:00] A sneak peak into the episode
[00:55] Music intro
[01:10] Opening
[03:08] Recap for new viewers
[05:34] 50% of marriage fail
[8:50] Divorcing after 20 years
[10:17] Women are the initiators of divorce
[11:09] Why people get divorced
[17:30] Letting go of your ideologies
[20:23] Pride gets in the way
[22:28] My parents divorce
[27:02] What divorce taught me
[31:20] Deep down I wanted to be married
[34:16] Staying longer than you should
[38:04] It’s not about being right but about solutions
[42:43] Closing

Where you are is not where you have to be. Your past does not define you, YOU define you.

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PODCAST MUSIC
Intro/Outro Music Title: So Magnificent
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