There’s a difference between helping and enabling. We know it. We say it. But somehow, some way, we find ourselves in a trap, a big ole thorny pit called enablement. In today's episode, we're examining the difference between helping and enabling and how to set healthy boundaries and rules of engagement, to build healthier relationships with the people we want to see succeed and thrive.

In this episode, we’re not going to speak about any specific behaviors, such as those associated with addiction and addicts. We’ll speak to you, the one who is doing the enabling. We’re focusing on you and your choices to enable the behavior. This isn't about shame or guilt.
It's about us taking responsibility, being accountable for what we say and do, and holding others accountable.

Let's discuss the hamster wheel you have created and keep it in motion. Let's talk about what happens when you stand in the gap and keep an adult from taking responsibility. This episode examines various examples of how this affects money management, household responsibilities, work duties, parenting, and more.

When do you go from helper to enabler? We discuss that in this episode.

Do you know there's love in the word "No," and sometimes there's more love in "No" than "Yes"? Listen in to hear how to lovingly say no and set healthy boundaries.

Enabling leads to greater stress and anxiety, lower well-being, health issues, and toxic relationships. Enabling harms you and the person you think you're helping.

Episode 84 also shares three businesses that we think you should support and share with your network. Check out our Business Shout-Outs!

BUSINESS SHOUT-OUTS

SHOUT-OUT #1 Aura Bora

Aura Bora is herbal sparkling water made from purified water, real herb extracts, fruits, and flowers.

Aura Bora is a member of the 1% for the Planet. So annually, they give 1% of sales to non-profits devoted to conservation and climate action.

Visit https://aurabora.com and order some today. From the land to your hand, as they say!

You can find them on IG at https://instagram.com/drinkaurabora

SHOUT-OUT #2 Purple Construction Inc.

Purple Construction Inc. is headquartered in Alhambra, CA. They launched in 2016, have completed over 200 projects with almost 900 appointed contractors, and have won four awards. For inquiries, please call (888) 894-5312 or visit their website https://thepurpleconstructioninc.com

You can see some of their completed and in-progress projects on IG at https://instagram.com/purpleconstructioninc

SHOUT-OUT #3 Silvie Mahdal

Silvie Mahdal is an artist based in Prague, Czech Republic. She does realistic figurative prints with a pencil that you would swear are photographs. If you didn’t see her IG videos showing her drawing, you could easily say, “Oh, that’s a photo.” Some of her pieces take upwards of 100 hours. Some take longer to complete. Visit her website: https:www.silviemahdal.com/product/ and see her new prints available. Follow her on IG at https://instagram.com/silviemahdal_art

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SHOW INFORMATION:

Company: Foreman & Associates, LLC
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HOST: Natasha L. Foreman, Lead Management Consultant, Foreman & Associates, LLC
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Theme Song: “Higher Up” by Shane Ivers
Business Shout-Out Segment Song: “Pulsar” by Shane Ivers