In this episode of The Observatory, James ‘Fish’ Gill joins the show to talk about love and awareness, conscious communication, and how it helps transform relationship conflicts. Jame Gill is a heart coach, yoga teacher, and transformational facilitator based in Perth, Australia. He supports couples, businesses, and community groups to regrow trust, connection, and understanding. Hear the simple practices for evoking safety during conflicts, including the art of validation. James also talks about the things that stop us from being masterful when validating others and the three questions to lead us deeper behind what we might assume to be malicious intent.

Timestamps

[02:10] The practice of conscious communication
[08:26] Simple practices for evoking safety in us during conflicts
[08:32] #1 The art of validation
[11:25] Validation 101, which supports emotional intimacy and safety
[15:07] The things that stop us from being masterful when validating others
[27:16] The threats that are vacuumed out by validation
[37:11] The ability to validate your intentions
[40:42] Fighting for mutual understanding
[46:40] Tapping into the neutral space in a relationship
[57:38] The homework for the week
[01:06:30] Three questions to lead us deeper behind malicious intent
[01:20:25] Bringing love and awareness to the very places it’s most ached for

Notable quotes:

“The more hyper-irrational we become, and the more engaged we become around firing off our little Facebook messages that are oppositional, the more we create the culture of opposition and judgement.” - James Gill [08:54]

“If someone has to be wrong in repair, then it’s not repair.” - James ‘Fish’ Gill [35:25]

“If I am holding in my left my experience and in my right your experience, and if I am really committed to bringing love and awareness to both, it’s only a matter of time for things to open between us.” - James ‘Fish’ Gill [01:01:35]

Relevant links:

Website: https://www.leadbyheart.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_fish_gill/

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